Both Adolph and his brother died relatively young, for Stadems, and lived together as bachelors and never married.
Was this by choice or individual bent or inclination, or does it speak of the dismal fact that most young marriageable girls preferred to get away from the farm, if they could?
Men, who could endure the hardships and challenges remained, but as they aged, their prospects for marriage dwindled.
Of course, the elder sons inherited the farmsteads too, and that meant they would be less inclined to leave what provided them a known livelihood and brave the unknown challenges of the city where many men competed for the same jobs.
At the least, on a family farm handed down in this way to a bachelor son (or two brothers, in this case), there was stability, and a peaceful, settled way of life you could count on. Those who ventured forth from that base might fail, and then who would help them, since they would be surrounded by strangers? But in a farm community of long-established Scandinavian families, many of them related, you could count on help in a time of need or difficulty--even to help build an outbuilding or bring in a harvest in touchy weather, or raise a new barn!
The Scandinavian trait that kept recurring in the males--that of a taciturn sparcity of speech that bordered on being tongue-tied--might not have helped reduce the stock of bachelors in the family relationship and in other families too. How many occasions to relax in young female company did they have anyway, growing up? There were mostly school and church-centured venues available to them, where they might meet elgible or pospective mates. Such venues promoted good manners and proper behavior, but they didn't always help melt the social awkwardness of young males who worked days and weeks by themselves with farm animals and equipment--and seldom got the chance of carrying on a conversation with a female other than their mother, aunt, or sister.
These are just thoughts of ours by way of explaining the noticeable numerousness of unmarried males, but perhaps more founded in reality back in those times than we may know. It is a fact that some young men on the farms never traveled more than forty miles from their birthplaces. The wars helped to change this temporarily, but not for all of them. So many young men might have known only a few young women in the critical years when a man yearns for a wife and family of his own, but once passed over this line, they probably sighed once or twice and then put the entrancing thought away as unrealistic and kept going doggedly on the farm as single men.
As for the younger brother Malvin, his initials "MS" appear on two corners of the wool carders that his aunt Bergit Stadem used on Plain View Farm for carding wool from their sheep to make blankets and fill the pillowcases! They were homemade, so he must have made them for her.
SON OF PEDER AND GURINA STADEM AND BROTHER TO MALVEN STADEM
(PETER AND GURINA'S ONLY OFFSPRING OF THEIR UNION OF TWO BLENDED FAMILIES OF WIDOWER AND WIDOW)
Mr. Adolph Stadem, Canton,SD. 2/6--1910
"Dear brother--Rec'd your card six months ago. Caroline [sister to Sever and Alfred by Marie and Peder Stadem] is in Soo Falls now. Andrine [only child and motherless] is at home. I am working hard and having a good time. Greet everybody. From your brother, Sever"
Mr. Adolph Stadem, Canton, S. Dak. 3/13-10:
"Hello Adolph. Clarence is home now and he has a great big rifle. Andrine is down at grandma's [Oline Stadem]. Steens have moved to Duel Co, and busy as ever and I don't know when I will have my summer vacation. Greetings to all. Sever"